Tuesday, August 12, 2008

How Human Beings Change

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she’s blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He’s always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend. One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she can see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “Now that you can see the world, will you marry me”The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying. “Just take care of my eyes dear.” This is how human beings change when the status changed. Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful Situations.Life is a GiftToday before you think of saying an unkind word – Think of someone who can’t speak. Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone whohas nothing to eat.Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who’s crying out to God for a companion. Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who went too early to heaven.Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they’re barren. Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets. Before whining about the distance you drive - Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet. And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job. But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us are without wrong doings. And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and be thankful you’re alive and still around.Life is a gift, live it, enjoy it, celebrate it, and fulfill it. Read More......

Biggest Resume Mistake

Your resume is the most important document in any job search. But what if you're submitting resume after resume and receiving no results at all -- not even a call? Your resume may be fatally flawed.

How can a resume betray a job seeker? It's not just typos or poor formatting. According to Lauren Milligan, founder of ResuMAYDAY, a resume-writing and career coaching firm based near Chicago, "The biggest flaw for a resume is when it fails to showcase a person's accomplishments, contributions, and results, and instead spouts a job description of each position he's held."

Use these three tips to make sure your resume doesn't betray you.

1. Think Big

Whatever jobs you've held -- be it as an assistant or a CEO -- think beyond the everyday tasks of your position. Shares Milligan, "People get bogged down in the day-to-day details of their jobs, but when it comes to your resume, you've got to get out of the clutter and ask yourself, 'What does this work mean?'"

She continues, "If I'm hiring for an administrative assistant, I already know what one does. I don't want to see a resume that only says an applicant can type and answer a phone. You have to go beyond that to point out your specific strengths."

Start by having big-picture conversations about what you do and how it serves the organization as a whole. States Milligan, "If you're in a support position, consider how successful the person you support is and how you help her do her job better. What role do you have in her successes? Those are your accomplishments."

2. Be Clear

Focusing on your accomplishments rather than your specific responsibilities will help keep your resume concise. "There's a huge difference between a resume and the Great American Novel," says Milligan. "The resumes I'm most proud of summed up a 25-year career in a single page."

She urges job seekers to remember that resumes are typically skimmed for a mere six to eight seconds. "Make sure you're identifying the companies you worked for, how long you were there, and if you earned a promotion. Those are things that people look for immediately." Also, if your job title is long and vague, tighten it up so that people immediately understand what you've done. For example, "Marketing Manager" is much more accessible than "Global Identity Architect."

Given the time you have to catch a recruiter's eye, a focused, accomplishment-driven resume is the way to go. She adds, "If you are loaded up on peripheral stuff, it's too hard for a hiring manager to find your story."

3. Get Real

What if you're trying to think about how you've helped build the big picture for your employer and you come up blank?

"A couple of times I've talked to people who insisted they just did their jobs and there's nothing special about them that jumps out," Milligan observes. "I've asked these folks point-blank, 'Are you really in the right position then?'" It's a difficult question to ask, according to this resume expert, but, she says, "These people may be chasing the wrong job."

She counsels clients that if they cannot speak about what they've done in terms of enhancing the position or the company, "You may be just punching a clock -- and you and your employer deserve more."
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Monday, August 11, 2008

Why Good Girls Go For Bad Boys


Are you a `nice guy` to women, and then wonder why you`re not getting laid?... Do women lead you on, only to burn you later?

Mr. Right isn`t necessarily a good guy. Mr. Right isn`t necessarily a nice guy. Mr. Right doesn`t necessarily care whether or not he`s Mr. Right.

Women know before hand the hard-to-find traits that they`re looking for in a guy ("Mr. Right"), and because there are so seemingly few in existence, women don`t put their lives on hold.
Instead they go from guy to guy, boyfriend to boyfriend, subconsciously hoping that one day this Mr. Right will suddenly drop into their lives. To a woman, Mr. Right is someone who appeals to her own personal style. Mr. Right could be anyone... And it`s not about looks (sure looks might get her attention, but only for a moment).
Again, Mr. Right could be anyone, and so a woman will perform "tests" to see if a particular guy might be a Mr. Right.
For the purpose of this article, let`s say that Mr. Right is a guy who`s presence tells the world that he expects respect, and he doesn`t have to work for this respect.


Is Mr. Right A Bad Boy?
So everything about you says that you deserve respect just because you were born. But do you really deserve this respect?... Time to put you to the test.
For example, sometimes women will "lead you on" as a means of testing you... If you respond in any way that tells a woman that you think she`s leading you on, you`ve just failed the test. So no matter what happens, never do anythingthat makes her think that you think she`s leading you on. One easy way to disable this specific test is to put a stop to all contact with her the moment she attempts to test you (and don`t waste your time telling her off - it`s counterproductive!). Turn your back (so to speak) and don`t say anything, and do not be affected. If you tell her off, it shows her that she`s had an affect on you.
By acting unaffected, her mind will go to work, wondering why you`re not affected by her antics... Allude (but be subtle) to other women, and you`ll make her think that the reason you`re not being "strung along", is that you have other women to choose from... She might even wonder if it`s you stringing her along! However, if you`re going to allude to women, BE CAREFUL... Remember to be subtle, because if you outright say that you have other women to choose from, or that you "can get any girl", you may challenge her pride. And if she`s prideful, this can give her the psychological strength to leave you and never look back.


Why Bad Boys Have Their Way With Women
The more a woman wonders as to what your intentions are, the more she becomes involved psychologically, and the more your value goes up in her eyes... This is a good reason why many "bad boys" have their way with women... [ "...Psychologically, the more a woman (or anyone) wants something, the more it will elude her, and the more she`ll chase after it. In your case, the longer this process carries on, the less willing she will be to give you up once she thinks you`re `caught`"... - Chapter III, Senoritas Escandalosa - DatingInsiderBook.com ]
Anger and emotion are counterproductive - when dealing with a woman`s tests, it`s not about passing these tests by doing "the right thing"... it`s about staying calm and objective, and throwing her off-balance by not letting her test you.
Remember: To pass her tests, ignore them. Do not give her tests the time of day. If her tests are persistent, laugh at them until she feels foolish for trying to test you.
When she tests, treat her like she`s your kid sister... Because in reality, this is how she`s acting. Sometimes women are aware they`re performing tests, and other times they`re not aware. Rather than chasing along, trying to pass her tests, laugh them off. And then go on as if it`s business as usual. Maybe you`ll piss her off and she`ll never want to talk to you again, but this is a risk you have to be willing to take. Chances are much greater she`ll have a lot more respect for you in the end. And even if she doesn`t want to talk to you again, be secure knowing that you didn`t play by her rules, and instead are telling her to play by yours, or hit the road.


Bad Boys Are Untouchables
If you`ve ever wondered why women go for "assholes", you`ve just learned a key driving force. In reality, most of these assholes aren`t assholes... They`re simply untouchable. They do things on their own terms. They can`t be negotiated with... They act with authority, and get the respect that goes along with it. They can`t be tested. They maintain independence from social constraints.
This is the kind of independence that Hollywood has glorified, because it`s a position that commands respect and authority. Women string guys along until they find a guy that they can`t string along. Then that woman`s attention will suddenly center 100% on this new guy, and the guys who were being strung along are all but forgotten. If you`ve learned anything by now from this book, it`s psychological independence. Independence shows that you have high confidence, and don`t have to depend on anyone for your well being. Independence in men can be thought of as seducing women without even trying. Women (and men) are attracted to independence. To an outside observer, you`re not trying to pick up the women in question. Instead, you carry on as if women aren`t that important to you. While seemingly arrogant, it somehow strikes a psychological chord with many women.
At the time of this writing, Pamela Anderson - a woman worshipped by men around the world and made a household name by the television show, Baywatch - is dating music performer, Kid Rock. Before Kid Rock, she had a well-publicized relationship with Tommy Lee of 80`s glamour rock band Motley Cruë... Before ever meeting these musicians, you can be sure that Pam Anderson had heard some of their songs... Consider the lyrics she probably heard...
"Girl don`t go away mad, just go away..." (Motley Cruë)
"I`m not straight out of Compton, I`m straight out of the trailer..." (Kid Rock)
"It`s the same old situation, it`s the same old ball and chain..." (Motley Cruë)
"Because I want to be a cowboy, baby..." (Kid Rock)
Tommy Lee and Kid Rock have both had their way with one of the most worshipped women in history. If anything, these relationships have really put a spot light on the "bad boy" image that for a variety of reasons, is powerfully seductive.


What Women See In Bad Boys
So what do women see in bad boys?
Two words... RISK and INDEPENDENCE (remember these words from earlier in this article?). Since women are not prepared to be responsible for being "bad" themselves (risk taking / adventure seeking), they find it very attractive when they find men who are "bad". These are men who are (or seem) prepared to take risks and have adventures and along the way, will encourage the women, to be bad themselves. That`s the appeal of a bad boy. A woman can be as bad as she wants and not feel guilty because he`s acting badder.
The other thing is that bad boys are viewed as the kind of guys who like to party it up and have more "wild fun" than typical "nice guys". And they show women more fun. Bad boys like their lives. Women find their energy and self-confidence strongly attractive. When women find these traits in a nice guy (which is rare), they usually marry him. When they find it in a bad boy, they usually just sleep with him.


Want One Night Stands? Become A Bad Boy
If you want plenty of one night stands, consider taking on the aura of a "bad boy"... Or in more common terms... BECOME A BAD BOY... Then put yourself in an environment where women are looking for guys like you, and you`ll find many vying for your attention.
(Side Note: This is why most "nice guys" don`t get one night stands... And when "nice guys" are out on the town, they make it EVEN EASIER for bad boys to get one night stands. Because nice guys help make the bad boys stick out in a crowd.)

Pamela Anderson could have any man in the world. She could have Billionaires. She could have Kings. So (at least at the time of this writing) why is she with a butt-rocker from Jakartat?

Now you know.
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